Friday 28 September 2018

Quotes and Advices

Hey guys.

I know that it's been a heck of a long time and I probably only have around one reader on my blog but that doesn't really change anything. I originally made this blog as a diary of sorts and to kind of remind myself of what happened throughout the years I kinda made a decision to merge both my super old blog all the way from 2009 to this one because I just guess I don't really feel the need to hide anything anymore.

I want to think that I've matured somewhat during these years. I have seen a lot of quotes/stories/lessons from people other than myself on social media and real life. Sometimes, I look at these quotes and think to myself, is that really the case? "Life is too short to hide your feelings, don't be afraid to say what you feel" or things similar to that. I'm not particularly picking this quote, I've come across many many different ones and this just so happens to be on my Facebook feed today and I felt like writing about it. Don't get me wrong, I think that these quotes are really positive and it helps a lot of people (Like my past self) to get through things in life. Empowering quotes these days are like candies given out on a daily basis. You get some good candy and sometimes there are those candies that are just god awful (A small amount of them) and just like quotes or I guess advice in general. They can be good or bad, However, when you're given the advice to listen to, my father always told me to listen to advice that people may have for you, it may not be the thing that you do, but at least it gives you something to think about.

I see quotes like, "If you love her, let her go, if she's yours she'll come back to you" and "If you don't stay until the last for that person, it just means that you don't love him/her enough" (In Chinese). Then I look back and think about a lot of things. For example, if you know that you're a horrible human being like I know I am, would you want to force yourself to stay beside someone until someday (maybe never) you get rid of all of your bad habits? Or would you choose to leave that person so that you don't continue to bring sorrow to them anymore? I don't think anyone really knows the answer to that question. But if you ask if I regret letting her go? I'd think for a bit and then tell you no. To be honest, of course, I do regret letting her go, but if you ask if I'd do it all over again, yes; yes I would. I did something that I cannot forgive myself for and probably that would be the thing that I'd regret, being who I am.

Okay, enough about me. Back to my original topic, I think that quotes like the ones that I have mentioned contain a little too much bullshit in them. Not really bullshit but I just think that people really shouldn't rely on them too much and just live your life how you want to. You don't want to hide your feelings, don't do it. You want to hide your feelings, hide it. You want to break up with someone? Do it. You want to be with someone, tell them. Now I know that  I'm kind of contradicting myself here but what I want to relay across is that we're human beings with the capability to think for ourselves. So besides doing what you want to do, the consequences and results are all to be expected and you should be thinking about them. You don't have to trust and rely on quotes from a random person to have your own thoughts. Continue to think about it endlessly and hopefully before you die someday, you'll discover the answer to your questions. If you don't however, it's okay.

Thanks for reading! (Not sure why you would)
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